Stress: When Multiple Major Life Events are Happening at Once
Stress: When Multiple Major Life Events are Happening at Once
I am currently going through what I like the call my great transition into adulthood. I am 26 years old and am currently in the process of planning my wedding, selling a home, building a home, and building up this blog. Add on top of that my full time job as a Stylist, and your run of the mill day to day chores it can be a lot to handle, not only physically, but emotionally. I can honestly say that I have never been this stressed out in my life. While a lot of what I am going through is positive, that doesn’t mean I haven’t had an occasional anxiety attack or two.
I wanted to write this blog post, to not only help me connect with all of you better but to share some of the things that I have been doing to manage the stress in my life.
Exercise
I know many of you have probably heard this before, and on multiple occasions, but I cannot tell you how helpful exercise has been for me these past few months. Not only has it helped me lose some weight, (which lets be real what bride to be doesn’t want to be in the best shape of her life for her wedding day) but the endorphins that are released while I am getting some cardio in on an elliptical, walking my dog, or lifting some weights to build muscle are doing wondering for my mental state.
Endorphins are the body’s natural pain relievers, but they also have an effect on your overall mood. They can release stress and create a feeling of well-being which is much needed in times where you may be feeling overwhelmed or have many stressors affecting your life.
Hobbies
While I am trying to build this blog in the hopes of it becoming a successful business, which can be stressful, I truly enjoy the time that I spend designing the site and writing posts for you all to read. It truly brings me joy when I get to share what I am passionate about, fashion & beauty. Sharing the knowledge that I have in these industries makes me so happy and I am glad to have a outlet in which to do so.
I also really enjoy baking and have built up quite the reputation with my Fiancé’s family. I am constantly asked to make sweet treats for family holidays and events. Just recently I took a whack at making a white chocolate blueberry layered cake. I infused the cake with white chocolate liqueur and added fresh blueberries into the batter to create a delicious dessert for my future father-in-laws Birthday. When I am in the kitchen whipping up a new dessert I forget about all of the stress that has been weighing down on me and it is nice to have that time and relax.
My advice would be to take some time out of your day and try new things, or maybe start that passion project or activity you always wanted to start to try an escape the things that are having a negative impact on your mental health.
Lists
I don’t know about you, but I am a lists kinda girl! I love creating a list and just checking things off as I complete them. Every time I draw a line through an item on my list my heart sings a little bit. This has really been helping me out a lot through my wedding planning process. It was not in the budget for my Fiancé and I to hire a wedding planner so we are doing the planning for our big day all on our own.
If you are in the middle of planning a wedding or other big event. Try creating a list or buying a planning book for your specific event. I know for me, the planning book that I purchased to help keep me organized for my wedding has timelines of when certain vendors need to be booked and also has pages to help manage your budget and allocate how much of that budget should be going towards each vendor. It has truly been a huge help for me and has taken some of the weight off my shoulders by keeping me super organized.
Quality Time
When life’s got you down or you’re just dealing with a lot, spending some quality time with friends and family can really lift your spirits and take some of the stress away. My Fiancé and I have joined a volleyball league with our friends and every Monday we get to blow off some steam by spending time with people we really care about.
We also enjoy a good beer and are quite the food snobs (thanks Gordon Ramsay) so we will go out about once a week and try new brews at our local breweries and try new dishes from either new restaurants we have never been to before or go back to some of our old favorites.
I encourage you and your partner to make the time to do something that you both enjoy. Even if it doest seem like you have the time, putting something that is stressing you out on the back burner to go out and have some fun will really make a huge difference.
Prayer
I know some of my readers may not be religious and that’s okay! This blog is first and foremost a place to help any woman level up her style game. Hopefully though, I have shared some other tips for dealing with stress that you can try to help you feel better while going through this period in your life. I would also encourage just taking some time to meditate and reflect on positive things that you have going for you and just take some deep breaths. It is all going to be okay.
I am not the perfect Christian. Admittedly I don’t pray to God everyday or even read through my Bible or devotionals like I should but I know that when I need him with me that he is always there. Being able to lean on God when I am stressed, or feeling anxious has helped me in so many ways.
My faith in God allows me the peace of mind of knowing that everything will go according to his plan and while I may ask him for things that I think I want/need, he is going to bring into my life things and situations that I know I can handle. He is doing that same thing with all of you. He only gives you what he knows you can handle. Just know that he is always with you and will guide you through it.
Conclusion
I hope that you found this post helpful. I really wanted to get a little more personal with all of you and just share some of the things that I have been doing to cope with all the stress these big events have been causing me.
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